Things I Would Do Differently If I Was Starting Out as a New Mom in 2025

Things I Would Do Differently If I Was Starting Out as a New Mom in 2025

Motherhood is a life-changing journey, and no matter how much you prepare, there will always be moments of uncertainty. As a trauma therapist who specializes in maternal and perinatal mental health, I’ve seen firsthand the struggles new moms face. But with the right resources and strategies, it’s possible to navigate these challenges with more confidence, joy, and self-compassion.

Looking back, there are a few things I would do differently if I were starting out as a new mom in 2025. If you're on this journey, I hope these insights help you create a smoother, more supported experience. You don’t have to do it alone.

1. I Would Get Ahead And Find A Therapist Before I Gave Birth

As a new mom, I know the emotional rollercoaster of the postpartum period can feel overwhelming. Between adjusting to life with a newborn, managing sleep deprivation, and navigating the physical changes of motherhood, it’s easy for your mental health to take a backseat. If I were starting out as a new mom in 2025, I would seek therapy early on.

Getting a therapist who specializes in maternal mental health would be one of the best things I could do for myself. Therapy is an incredible tool for processing the changes, anxieties, and fears that come with becoming a mother. EMDR therapy, for example, helps with trauma healing, which is especially beneficial if you’ve experienced birth trauma, postpartum depression, or past emotional wounds. Therapy can provide a safe space for you to express yourself, reduce stress, and address any mental health struggles you may face.

2. I Would Get a Postpartum Doula

A postpartum doula is an invaluable resource for new moms, and if I were starting out in 2025, I would make this a priority. Doulas specialize in supporting mothers during the postpartum period, offering everything from physical assistance with breastfeeding and newborn care to emotional support and postpartum education.

Having a doula would give me peace of mind knowing there’s someone by my side who is experienced in navigating the challenges of early motherhood. This extra support would help reduce overwhelm and provide the space to rest and recover while ensuring that my newborn gets the best care. In a world where mothers are often expected to do it all, a postpartum doula would be a game-changer.

3. I Would Join Local Mom Groups and Use Public Library Groups

Community support is crucial during the early days of motherhood. If I were starting out as a new mom in 2025, I would actively seek out local mom groups and use resources like the public library’s offerings. Local mom groups provide a sense of camaraderie, connection, and a chance to share experiences with others who are going through similar challenges. Whether it’s an in-person group or an online community, these spaces allow you to connect, share advice, and learn from others.

The public library is also a hidden gem for new moms. Many Florida libraries offer free or low-cost programs for parents and babies, such as storytime, playgroups, and parenting classes. These resources help you feel less isolated, build a network of supportive friends, and keep your mental health in check. The importance of building a community as a new mom cannot be overstated.

4. I Would Use an Affirmation Journal Designed For Moms

Mindset is everything, especially when it comes to motherhood. The pressure to be perfect can be overwhelming, but it’s crucial to remind yourself that you’re doing your best and that’s enough. If I were starting out in 2025, I would incorporate an affirmation journal into my daily routine.

An affirmation journal helps shift your mindset from doubt and fear to self-compassion and confidence. By writing down positive affirmations each day, such as “I am doing the best I can,” or “I am enough,” you can begin to rewire your brain for positivity. Affirmations also serve as a gentle reminder to prioritize self-care and celebrate the small victories in your motherhood journey. The simple act of journaling can provide clarity, reduce anxiety, and help you stay grounded in your values.

5. I Would Practice Nightly Check-Ins with My Husband to Cover Peaks and Valleys of the Day

One of the biggest changes that comes with motherhood is the shift in your relationship with your partner. If I were starting out as a new mom in 2025, I would commit to doing nightly check-ins with my husband to discuss the peaks and valleys of the day.

Parenthood can create stress and tension between partners, so it’s essential to maintain open communication. A nightly check-in offers a structured time to share how you’re feeling, what went well, and where you may need support. This intentional communication helps both partners stay connected, show appreciation for each other, and build a stronger foundation for co-parenting.

It’s easy to let small frustrations build up, especially during the postpartum period when emotions are running high and sleep is in short supply. A simple check-in can be a powerful tool for maintaining emotional closeness and reducing misunderstandings.

TISHEILA JUSTICE, LCSW | EMDR Therapy for Maternal Mental Health Florida

Starting Your Journey with the Right Tools

Motherhood is a beautiful, yet challenging experience, and starting out with the right resources and support can make all the difference. If I were beginning this journey in 2025, I would prioritize my mental health, seek community support, and be intentional about nurturing my relationship with my partner. Therapy, a postpartum doula, local mom groups, affirmations, and communication are all tools that can help you navigate the emotional and physical changes of becoming a mother.

As a therapist passionate about supporting mothers, I want you to know that you don’t have to do this alone. You are worthy of support, compassion, and time to nurture yourself as you embark on this journey of motherhood. If you're looking for guidance, therapy, or support, I’m here to help you build the coping strategies and emotional resilience you need to thrive.

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